Giving back to someone so special
Organized by: Peter Humphreys
July 07, 2016
For 33 years I have been married to the most loving, caring, beautiful woman in the world. She gave us 4 beautiful children and has devoted her life to raising them and providing for them. Everything she does, she does for us. She sacrificed time and energy and has always been there for us. She doesn't ask for anything and actually gets miffed if we try to buy her gifts she doesn't need. Together we live a life I would not trade with anyone for anything. Sure we go without vacations and our cars weren't always the best......we live a moderate simple life so everyone is happy and the times we all spend together are what we can afford. She manages our money so all our bills are paid and she also made sure that the children got the chance to go to school so they can have a better life as well......... 4 years ago she was diagnosed with Colorectal Cancer......we were all devastated. While everyone struggled to come to terms with it, she bravely went through months of chemotherapy and radiation treatment that culminated in a 6 hour surgery to save her life. She recovered and did as the doctors told her and life started to return to normal......as normal as possible for a woman who went through an epic battle and who struggled with the loss of femininity and who has the fear that it could all come back...........worse this time. Behind the smiles I could see the fear in her eyes but she would not let me or anyone else see her inside struggle. The next few years were filled with test and exams and we both looked forward to retiring. We wanted some time for ourselves to make up for everything we had worked for and given up. You tend to try and ignore the cancer issue....pretend it never happened to make it easier to cope with but there is always the underlying fear and anger. Then it happened...........she started having symptoms that sent the doctors into high gear. More test and more fear. We all try to help her cope but you can see her struggling with the fear everyday and she pretends not to be crying when we are looking. I made a plan to take her to a new home for retirement where she would be happier and we could spend the rest of our lives together. I hope the change will also make her feel healthier and live longer. I made plans but between my modest pension, the expenses and low funds, the goal will be difficult to get her to. It is why I am here asking for a helping hand....from strangers, perhaps friends and family, from anyone who can understand what she is going through. I have decided that no matter what it takes I am going to do this for her. I have promised her I will give her this gift so that if the worst happens, she will know that we all cared and we all appreciated everything she did for us. I'm giving her everything I have and all I ask is that others give a little.