One Last Trip for Ricky & Myra
Organized by: Lindsey Holmes
Lindsey Holmes via Crowdrise
October 27, 2014
**Update - 10/27** - With such heavy hearts we are sad to share that Ricky passed last night, 10/26 at 7:30PM. In his very 'Ricky way,' he fought tooth and nail but finally succumbed to his cancer.
We are asking for your heaviest prayers right now to get the family through this tough time.
**Update - 10/11** - The team rallied together and matched our current donations to send Myra, Ricky, the kids and extended family to the Poconos from October 4 - October 11. They spent the week doing one of Ricky's favorite past times, fishing, and they even had a spa day. They rented a scooter for him to get around the camp grounds and he felt self-sufficient and was even moving faster than the rest of the family.
Myra reports that Ricky hasn't laughed as much as he had this week in a very long time. That in itself is a great accomplishment.
Please contnue to support this campaign if you can. Support is still needed for this family as they face the battle ahead. We are so hopeful and so appreciative of your help and prayers. 100% goes to the family.
This family has been through a lot... As Ricky battles Stage 4 Lung Cancer, we asked the family what would make this time easier. 'One last trip as a family' is all that they want. Please read this heartfelt story, in the words of mom, Myra, as she fights for her family.
"When my college aged children came home last year for summer break, within one week of returning home in early June 2013, my youngest child, my daughter was hospitalized with a sudden and severe respiratory infection that required her to be placed in an induced coma and also placed on a respirator to continue her breathing function. She was closer to death than any 19 year old should be. I am normally the rock of our family, but my family saw me at my most vulnerable for the darkest part of my daughter’s hospitalization which was over two weeks.
My rock and partner, Ricky Scott stayed by our side at the hospital and cared for my mother who lives with us and my son, Kalonji, the eldest child, also home from college. He missed work until my daughter Chinyere came out of the coma and showed signs of recovery. In our near 19 year relationship it was the first time I saw him cry. Just as my daughter showed signs of progress and as both my children returned to their respective colleges in September, we received word that my Ricky had stage 4 lung cancer that had spread to his liver and was given a prognosis of 6 months to live with treatment. While I am happy to say he is still with us and had showed signs of steadiness after chemotherapy, new spots on his brain will lead us to radiation treatment now. This was the second part of a one-two punch as we were still reeling from the freak illness my daughter experienced last June. There was over $246,000 in hospital bills for her stay for which payment still hasn’t been resolved as I had no health insurance for us.
Early this year in February, my mother who lives in New Jersey with us, suddenly came down with an aggressive case of rheumatoid arthritis that threatened to cripple her. She lives with us because she is already legally blind from glaucoma and this has increased my caregiver duties. Both my children are out of state in college. My mom is now undergoing chemotherapy as a treatment with physical therapy and seems to be making progress.
My family has been the glue for me in some very difficult times since being downsized in 2010 and working steadily to build a marketing consulting business. We like many families had already been under severe financial stress. I was downsized from a job I held for 10 years. I have yet to be reemployed at the income I once had. Ricky went back to work after exhausting temporary disability benefits, but the status of his work future is unknown. Amidst the existing fears about repaying Parent Plus loans, pending foreclosure and contemplation of bankruptcy, cancer and family illness have trumped all those issues; moving them to second place to the health issues affecting our family and loved ones.
I am a hopeless optimist despite these obstacles. I am immensely grateful for the blessings we do have. Every moment that we have an opportunity to make a memory is invaluable to us all. I pray that Ricky’s cancer can be treated as a chronic illness and allow our family to make more and more memories. He loves to fish, dance, help others. He even visits with others who have cancer and tries to encourage them to eat better and juice, etc. This year has definitely taken a toll on all of us. It will give us a chance to make yet another memory to hold dear in the storm of this beautiful thing called life that gets really complicated and scary sometimes."
Please help me send Ricky, Myra and their two children on a cruise. One last trip as a family. All proceeds go directly to the family and a travel agent has donated their services inkind to help maximize donations. Thank you for your support.