Kesny is an intelligent and outgoing young lady with a huge personality. She enjoys learning and debate. She aspires to be a lawyer to help people when she grows up. On the outside she appears to be no different than any other teenager eating Takis and drinking Dr. Pepper slushies hanging with her dog, Alex. Deep down inside of her beautiful exterior she is deeply broken.
Trauma: In Kesny's short 13 years she has suffered tremendous loss and she is lost herself now. The bubbly personality she once portrayed hid deep scars that have recently ripped open and overwhelmed her with emotions she can't hide any longer. She is angry. Angry that she isn't understood. That no one "gets" how she feels, because “no one” has been through all she has. And truly not many could relate. You see, Kesny, has been a victim of horrible circumstances.
Because of her birth mom’s drug addiction when Kesny was a toddler she was taken into DHS custody away from her birth dad who later died in a car accident when she was five before she was able to be reunited with him. Her birth mom regained custody and allowed her lovers to abuse and neglect her and her half-sister who Kesny protected with all her being. Her birth mom chose partying and drugs over her children until she finally lost control. Kesny and her half-sister came to live with me when she was seven. I am her aunt (dad's sister). Kesny's half-sister was reunited with her birth dad and she visited us often. Sadly, he died in a motorcycle accident when Kesny was 10 and Kesny lost contact with her half-sister.
Kesny asked me to be her mommy when she was nine. My husband and I adopted her when she was 10. Six short months later what was to be her happy forever family was torn apart when my husband and I divorced unexpectedly to Kesny and I. He recently refuses visitations due to her behavior. Yet another loss of a parent.
Her happiness is gone. She is depressed, self-harming, suicidal and pushing everyone away with her manipulative dishonesty, disregard for other's feelings, and disrespect for herself. Her self-esteem is at its all-time low. She doesn't believe anyone really loves her and proving it to her has become impossible.
She has begun running away, experimenting with alcohol and marijuana, making up horrific lies and spreading rumors, making poor choices on social media, and becoming aggressive toward me. Out of fear for her safety she has been placed in acute inpatient treatment for PTSD, major depression, self-harm, suicidal ideation, and extreme defiance twice in the last two months.
I have lost my precious child to her single fear of never being loved and eventually being rejected like her birth mom and adopted dad have. Her brokenness and mental illness is in fight mode and she believes that I don't love her no matter how much I show her or tell her. It's a crippling feeling when you've lost the respect and love of your child. She is on a path to destruction and I desperately fear for her future.
The acute inpatient therapy to help her heal from all this trauma of abuse and abandonment has proven unsuccessful and I cannot keep her safe any longer. Her condition has been escalating exponentially and she needs extensive long-term therapy in a residential facility.
I have been searching facilities for months each time getting my hopes up that this is the one just to end my research in tears when I learn the cost for mental health that isn't covered by private insurance. Residential care is impossible to afford on any average parent’s income; however, God led me to the House of Hope.
Financial: The House of Hope program averages between 12-14 months. The monthly tuition is $2,960. This includes housing, counseling, and education at Hope Academy. With insurance and scholarship funding, a portion of the overall cost could be reduced. An estimate for her to attend 12 months will be approximately $20,000.
I am a mother that will give her last breath for her child, yet I cannot breathe finances into existence to pay for this alone. I have never asked anyone for anything in my life. If I own it, I worked for it. It is extremely humbling to ask for help, but if God places the desire in your heart and means to donate, please help support her and show her she is loved so she can heal and have the future she deserves. Every dollar donated is saving my baby girl. She is worth it. I am so thankful for my friends and family and all those that have been lifting us up in prayers. We understand that not everyone can afford to donate financially and if you can’t, please pray to lift her and our family up in your prayers.
**This donation will go straight to the House of Hope. All donations to House of Hope Kansas City are 100% tax deductible.
House of Hope: House of Hope Kansas City is affiliated with the National House of Hope and uses a proven model, which has produced a high rate of completion nationwide. Their mission is to provide a parent-interactive, residential treatment home for girls 12-18 years old, with the ultimate goal of family restoration. Focusing on the family is what makes House of Hope different and successful. They work with teens and parents to restore family relationships through a Christian counseling program.
I believe in my heart that this is the best place for her to recover. I know that God can turn tragedy into triumph. The link below gives an overview of House of Hope Kansas City if you would like to know more about the program.
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